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Retrieved: May 11, 2016


Dear Moms, 

 Hey, today is May 11, 2016. I have had a lot of stuff going on in my life and I have been feeling like I have had to express how I a GOOD mom, vs a BAD mom... Now, we ALL know we have our own versions of the BAD mom... the one that has a cigarette hanging out of her mouth, while holding her overweight toddler in the air by ONE arm, cussing up a blue streak because the kid did something kids DO: like spilled juice on himself- comes to my mind immediately. Mind you, this is in a public park, and she is completely giving me the, "Let me get my damn kids out of here" vibe...LOL I digress.

 Anywho- what I mean is why do we have to define what IS or ISN'T proper parenting. I mean abuse in any form is frowned upon- but there are days where I will just swear like a sailor on leave for every little thing that is going on in my home... is that abusive? I MAY tell a kid in not so many words, "That's the dumbest sh*t I have ever heard!" is THAT abusive? Here is a letter to those who have something to say about the way I in particular parent:
To Whom It May Concern:

 I am here to appeal simply as a mother, I love my children more than I could ever love anything in the entire galaxy. They are my reason for being. They are also my main reason for stress- but I am no stranger to hard work and I have put in quite a bit of time and effort in raising the confident, well adjusted kids I have. They have learned empathy and compassion from dealing with a mother that is often near breaking down. I have been raised to understand that if one "knew better," one would in turn would, "do better." I may be working very hard and long hours on many projects, but I am doing it for the betterment of my family. I have been encouraged by the many to, "slow down" or, "focus on one project at a time." I have many skills that I have been able to monetize: my writing, my YouTube videos, my home improvements, my pancake mixes, the list goes on. However, what they fail to understand is: I am building a brand- I am ALWAYS busy. But, no matter how busy I may become with my endeavors, I am never too busy to be a Mom. 

My children are the reason I work 9 jobs, and lose sleep- I want to leave a legacy for them. I don't get child support, I don't live in subsidized housing. I want to prove to them that you are not defined by your poor choices, and that anything is possible with hard work, and determination. I have been very near giving up throughout this process, due to the lack of support and or understanding I have received from those staffed to be "allies" for myself. (Teachers, counselors, etc.) In fact, I even went so far out of desperation, to seek out the forms to terminate my parental rights. But, I realized that if I were to give up on them, there is NO ONE on the face of the planet more capable of taking them to the next level. I was chosen to be THEIR mother for a reason. I am the one to teach them and mold them into the individuals I KNOW they can be. The individuals this world needs to lead, teach, and create for future generations. 

I had all but resigned to the fact that I am all I have on this journey of parenthood a long time ago. I may overcompensate for being a single parent, I may overindulge my children from time to time. I am by NO means a perfect parent. I have always doubted my ability to raise capable individuals since they sent me home from the hospital with the first one. But, the look of hope that is in the eyes of each of my children gives me the strength I need to keep going, even when I feel my back is against the wall and I am on my last leg. THEY are and will continue to be the reason I fight for better until my dying day.

​​Thank you in advance for your time regarding this matter.

Jennifer Batchelder
​ 
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Retrieved: April 27, 2016

So, suck on THAT naysayers!! I am a MOM! I do THE absolute hardest job on the planet! I have to wear 1,001 hats AT HOME ALONE! Let's not mention the veritable HABERDASHERY I have to wear whilst running my company and maintaining a social media presence! There are days I want to hide in a closet and NEVER come out. There are days that the hardest thing for me to do is hold back the tears. I am human. Flawed, clumsy, silly, sometimes inappropriate...but I am HERE! No matter what comes, I will never abandon ship. My tiny crew is all I have through sun and storms and together- WE can weather ANYTHING! WE ALL WILL! Just, adjust those sails and find your wind! I have a little exchange I do with the kids when I drop them off to school. I say, "Life is a Journey. Will it be Easy?" The kids all shout, "NO!" I then ask, "Will it be Worth It?!" They all shout back, "YES!!" then I tell everyone to, "Make me proud, be leaders not followers, make smart choices, and be their best "YOUs" yada, yada, yada..." in those exact words!! See? I told ya I'm NOT perfect! 

 LOL I just had to share that with all of you that actually DO read what I blather on about here! Thanks to you guys! You're the REAL MOM MVPs!! 

Until Next Time, 
Stop judging yourself, you're doing GREAT!

"C" is for CHAOS (Catholic Mom)
www.spiritandsong.com
Retrieved: May 11, 2016



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